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Here is a interesting how-to video on CPR and the Heimlich maneuver.  Two sexy models wearing only their bra and panties showing viewers how to perform CPR.  I have to admit I wasn’t paying too much attention to the vocal instructions, I was too busy watching one model straddle the other.  The Heimlich video  is even more distracting with some delish eye candy performing the ab thrusting. I had to watch that one several times to make sure I know what I’m doing.

What do you think? Should the Red Cross follow this style of instruction? I would imagine a lot more people would sign up for CPR classes!

Watch the videos here

One of the amazing parts of being a Pure Romance consultant is the networking and bonding I am able to do with my sister consultants.  When we are at trainings, it’s so motivating to be surrounded by the top consultants in the company and soak up their knowledge.  This past week I had the honor of going on the Board of Directors trip to Naples, Florida with about 50 other women.  Although a lot of the trip was spent relaxing by the pool, shopping, and eating, we were taking every opportunity to find out how each other has grown their business.   At the end of the trip the founder and CEO, Patty Brisben, invited us into her home for dinner.  Her home is gorgeous and she made each of us feel welcome and proud to be there. 

Thursday and Friday were spent in meetings going over  new ideas and policies for the company.  The president leads these meetings and listens to our input and suggestions.  I can’t describe the feeling of knowing that the president is actually taking into consideration your advice on how your company is run. 

I left Naples, with some beautiful new friends and will be sure to make Board of Directors again this year so I am back in June 2011!

For all my female readers, think back to when you first started making out as a young teenager.  Your breasts probably received most of the attention, whether it was because you were afraid to go any further or just weren’t ready.  Your partner would grab, caress, kiss, and maybe nibble not only your nipples, but the entire breast.  And it felt good. 

Flash forward to present day and intimacy with your partner.  Once the wall to the vagina has been breached, all attention to the breasts disappears faster than you can say the breast.  I think it has to do with the expectation and urge to go straight for the orgasm, we forget all this other pleasure we can experience from the rest of our body. 

According to Dr. Debby Herbenick at the Kinsey Institute, research shows women long for more breast play during sex.  Next time you are intimate with your partner, put all the focus on the breast. Have your partner play with your boobs.  Touch them, grab them hard, pinch your nipples, softly stroke them, kiss them, lick – it’s nothing but breast time.   Remember for a lot of women the sides, top & bottom of the breast is more sensitive than the nipples.  When you and your partner put all of your attention on your breasts, the result will be tantalizing pleasure. 

Add some variation to breast play:

 - Have your partner trail the Feather Teaser over your chest, neck, and stomach to tease your senses.

- For a tingling sensation, heightened arousal, and more supple skin apply Bosom Buddy in yummy Vanilla Cupcake.

 - The Chocolate Fantasy Kit will not only satisfy your and your partners sweet tooth, but will provide lots of fun while drizzling and licking. 

 - Add some vibration with the Platinum Pleaser.  Who said vibrators are for vulvas only!

Remember to keep the ta-tas happy and you’ll find a more rewarding sex life!

If you are an American non-fiction independent film maker, the one place you want your movie to showcase is Walter Reade Theatre at Lincoln Center in NYC.  Movies showcases normally approach subjects you won’t find in mainstream theatres, human rights, politics, religion.  On May 27, Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD) will be explored with the showing of Orgasm, Inc.

When filmmaker Liz Canner took a job editing erotic videos for a pharmaceutical company’s drug trials, she was permitted to film the company for her own documentary. Her employer was trying to develop the first Viagra drug for women to treat a brand-new disease: Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD). But are her employer and other medical companies actually taking advantage of women (and potentially endanger their health) in pursuit of billion-dollar profits? Orgasm Inc. is a powerful look inside the medical industry and the marketing campaigns that are literally and figuratively reshaping our everyday lives around health, illness, and desire.

The term Female Sexual Dysfunction has become a big name in the medical field since the success of Viagra.  Since a magic pill for men was discovered, then surely there was a magic pill for women and pharmaceutical companies rushed to be the first to discover it. 

For me, I don’t agree with the term Female Sexual Dysfunction because that implies there is “normal” and if you don’t fall into that normality then there is something wrong with you.  I am curious to see what sie Canner takes – does she side with pharmaceutical companies saying that women need the magic pill?  When I was in school  I wrote a paper on the dichotomy in the medical field on FSD; one side saying it exists and we need more drugs, the other side saying drugs are not the answer.   I found that many urologists are eager to push pharmaceuticals while sex therapists look for alternatives. 

As a Pure Romance consultant I have a lot of customers who need guidance getting their libido back or having an orgasm.  For many, their lack of desire stems from stress or medications they are already taking.  The female body is more complex than a man’s when it comes to desire and arousal.  Most women need more than a visual or a thought to create excitement, and it’s not as easy as blood pumping to our  groin and boom we are done!

I have ordered a copy of Orgasm, Inc and after watching the trailer am excited to watch it!

If you want to learn more about the debate on FSD  check out www.thenewviewcampaign.org

The website for Orgasm Inc is http://www.orgasminc.org/ You can watch the trailer, buy the DVD and  get more information.

According to a group of new studies, young women between the ages of 18 and 30 are suffering from low libido at rates never seen before: 43% of women have sexual problems, they say. And 1 in 10 women doesn’t want to have sex at all, trumpeted a recent ABC News story.

The weird part isn’t the fact that women are reporting what experts like to call “sexual dysfunction,” but that women this young are: Usually we think of sexual issues as the stuff that plagues the over-40 set.

But sexperts are now blaming 20-somethings with low libido on everything from stress (we’re worried about our jobs/working longer hours) to birth control/antidepressants (both are potent chemical cocktails that can make lust dry up), and, well, Hollywood:

“Young women are feeling pressured to be sex pots,” pronounced one sexpert in the ABC story.

Of course, there isn’t a media outlet out there that doesn’t like to start a story: “In bedrooms across America…”, so, in our mind, the real question is: Which of these theories are true, which are mere media hype, and what can you do to keep your sex life hot? Dr. Debby Herbenick, a sexual health educator and researcher at The Kinsey Institute and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction, gives it to you straight.

But, please, in the comments, pick an anonymous handle, and tell us all about your sex life — or lack thereof.

Lemondrop: What do you think of these studies reporting low desire in women who are at the prime age to get it on?
Herbenick: It’s difficult for us to tell how much this has changed over time because we don’t have good data on it from years ago. But we do know that there are some young women who really do have a problem with sexual desire and that runs across the lifespan…

We also know that desire tends to decrease in long-term relationships, so you can be young and healthy and fit, but you could still experience a decrease in desire the longer you stay with someone, whether you’re a woman or a man. Also, recently, because we have such a focus on desire and so many discussions about low libido, we have a lot more women questioning if their desire is at the right level. We’re seeing a lot more distress than we used to.

Let’s talk about Hollywood for a minute. Do you really think the entertainment industry is partly to blame?
Absolutely. We see people that are always ready to have sex in movies and television, as if sex is always the number one priority in people’s lives. But we know that’s just not the case, and it shouldn’t be. Worrying about work and school take precedence. Those stresses of life take their toll on sleep and eating and stress — and also sex.

Is there a link between birth control and low sexual desire?
Some studies have found that a portion of women, not all, do experience lower sexual desire after they start the birth control pill. Unfortunately, a lot of researchers have tried to do more on this but have been unsuccessful in getting funding because, as you can imagine, there hasn’t been a lot of interest from pharmaceutical companies to investigate this since they make those products.

What about women who take antidepressants?
We know that for some women on antidepressants, sexual problems are a common side effect, including difficulty with orgasm.

And how much do you think the inability to orgasm is related to low sexual desire?
It can be linked, but there are certainly many women who enjoy sex whether or not they have an orgasm, which is hard for a lot of men to grasp. If you’re a woman who is used to having orgasms or for whom orgasms are important, and you don’t have one, then desire might be affected next time you have sex. But, also, sex might not be pleasurable if you don’t feel connected to your partner. And on average, women have lower sex drives than men, and sometimes that leads to what they feel is ‘duty sex’ or obligation sex, and it starts this cycle of dread. Overall, there can be lots of reasons why you lose desire.

What advice do you give women who are suffering from low libido?
I often ask women if it is a problem for them or a problem because they think they are disappointing their partner. They should also look at what’s changed in their lives: Am I tired? Am I stressed? Did I just have a baby? Often lifestyle behaviors are very strongly related to sex, but we really undervalue that. If you think your partner wants it more than you, talk to your partner. Sometimes he doesn’t know, and it’s fine. You can do something else together.

As far as what you can do, there’s some more research that mindfulness techniques can help. Women are very prone to cognitive distractions — worrying about the laundry, worrying about the kids, worrying about school, instead of focusing on sex. Instead, you should focus on how the sheets feel on your skin, how your partner’s skin and hair smells and how it feels to kiss them and touch them. Really focusing on those things can help you find the desire in sex again.

There’s also research on storytelling techniques. Sometimes when our partner’s approach us we think, “Oh no, he wants sex again. All he ever wants is sex.” And that’s a negative story. But if you can replace that with a positive story like, “He thinks I’m so hot, he can’t resist himself,’ we find that those positive sexy stories can help women feel in the mood.

There’s still a lot of talk about the female Viagra. What about taking a drug that claims to increase desire?
For a portion of women, medication might be helpful if nothing else really works. But I think it’d be a mistake if drugs were the first line of treatment because we have decades of knowledge that sex therapy works well and more cognitive techniques can work. Mostly these things are about relationships: If you don’t feel loved or desired or special to your partner or they are condescending towards you, a pill is not going to work.

http://www.lemondrop.com/2010/04/28/sex-advice-for-women-under-30/

I woke up this morning and found this email in my inbox…

Dear Nicole,

Your ability to turn your resolutions into reality is forever linked directly to your commitment to change along with your ability to make consistent progress each and every day.

The relentless pursuit of your goals is ultimately a physical, emotional and spiritual demonstration of how badly you want to make this the best year of your life.

Get started right now by logging in here:

Yesterday I decided to solicite help in sticking to my plan to achieve my goals this year.  They say you need to do something for something like 5 days straight to make it a habit.  Well I need to do it for like 30 days to make it a habit.  It’s like brushing your teeth when you get up in the morning and before you go to bed.  How many times did you parents have to remind you in order for it to become part of your daily routine.  I’m going to venture to guess more than 5.

So yesterday I signed up for Got Resoloutions  – A 30 day fast start challange.  This is what they claim:

The purpose of making a resolution must be to achieve it, as there is no purer form of success, no more exact and exacting test of what you are capable of, no better way to start the year than to set and achieve your resolutions and begin the process of change and growth in your life. Make this the best year of your life!

The idea is to get you motivated everyday to work towards achieving your goals, more importantly to help you decide what your goals are.   Each morning I will watach a brief video with the “lesson” for the day and type in my goals, which will then be emailed to me.   There is also a roadmap for you to figure out where you want to go and how you are going to get there.  And of course forums for you to chat with others, although I can’t figure out why they have this.  I mean if I am sitting around chatting with others about achieving my goals then the program is not working.  Instead I should be completing actions to achieve those  goals instead of wasting time dreaming about them.

I am excited about this program because I think it will help me focus on what I want to accomplish for the year.  However there seems to be way to many forms and assessments for me to complete, I mean should I really being doing those instead of working?

For now, I take the integrity pledge and keep working on my goal list for the day.

If you make a commitment, honor it.
If you make a promise, keep it. If you set a goal, achieve it.

I am a huge fan of Jeffery  Gitomer and recently read this article written by him and I think our minds are connected by a supernatural force….

Well, it’s another year.

All you have to do is take the actions. Come on — it’s a new year. Turn over a new leaf. One that leads to your oak tree — not someone else’s.

by Jeffrey Gitomer http://www.gitomer.com/articles/ViewPublicArticle.html?key=ajcdMibak3P3STtm17%2F9qg%3D%3D

In my browsing I came across a fun home website www.gardenhouse.com and found this loveseat

And this lovely vintage bar cart (which I have been on the hunt for now, for quite some time)

Now it’s time to stick to my plan: I have to enter orders from last nights fabulous party.

I just  finished a conference call with several other leaders in Pure Romance.  These are women who are extremely successful in their business and work very hard to achieve this success.  I was honored to be included in this call, to know that they  value my opinion and want me to help them train their the girls on their  team as well as help them improve their business.  We are working together on various ideas to not only make our workload lighter, but to help us make more money – and who doesn’t want that.

2009 was an exceptional year for me and my business.  I achieved my goal of making Board of Directors and exceeded my expectations for growing consultants on my team.  I realized I needed to become a better leader for my team to help them reach their goals and succeed as a Pure Romance consultant.   This was also the year I became good friends with several other consultants and I  value their friendship and admire  their strength and tenacity as they juggle being businesswomen, wives, and moms.

I am  very excited about what things to come this year with Pure Romance and the growth I will achieve as a business woman, as a leader, and as an educator.   The wheels are churning in my head with tons of ideas not only for myself and my team; my first party of 2010 is tonight and I am already antsy with new things to implement.   Get ready for an unforgettable year!

Oh if you just love the picture above like I do, it’s a mini-figure from Mindstyle and Doktor A and can be purchased here: http://neonmonster.com/NeonMonster/store/product/866/detail.w?catalogID=358